How to make shaving your head more fun

I decided to embrace my hair loss as much as I could, instead of fighting it, so I shaved my head after my second chemo session. If you’re keeping track, that’s the day after my first date with Ilan and just after I started noticing hair loss. Taking intentional action definitely made me feel likeContinue reading “How to make shaving your head more fun”

When your hair falls out on a first date

It was just a week and a half after my first chemo treatment when my hair started falling out. I knew it would happen around then, but it’s hard to prepare for. It was Saturday, August 20, 2016, a date that I’ll never forget. I was relaxing with two friends by the pool and itContinue reading “When your hair falls out on a first date”

When anticipation ends and treatment begins

It was a large hospital complex, with multiple tall white buildings all named after different people. My mom wasn’t feeling well that day, and I didn’t want her to accidentally get someone who is immunocompromised sick, so we decided she wouldn’t come to my first chemo appointment.  Instead, my best friend and I walked throughContinue reading “When anticipation ends and treatment begins”

So it’s cancer, but what’s the actual diagnosis?

Thursday afternoon, just a couple hours after the biopsies, I took a greyhound bus for 3 hours to get to my friend’s house. This was the friend that had Leukemia many years prior. I planned to spend the weekend with her and her family, not expecting my biopsy results right away but also knowing itContinue reading “So it’s cancer, but what’s the actual diagnosis?”

Diagnostic process in the United States

Coming back to the United States, I knew my experience with the healthcare system would be different. I was fortunate that my mom had already made a consultation for me, so just a few days upon my return I was sitting in a breast specialist’s office with my mom. We both had no idea whatContinue reading “Diagnostic process in the United States”

When you use your privilege during cancer

I can’t talk about being semi-diagnosed with cancer in Rwanda without talking about privilege. My first experience using my privilege during the diagnostic process was having a Human Resources for Health (HRH) member advocate on my behalf to get the wait time for the biopsy results down from about a month to 10 days. NotContinue reading “When you use your privilege during cancer”

This is absurd… I probably have breast cancer?

And how I told 500+ students at Agahozo-Shalom Youth Village After a long 10 days, I went back to the hospital in Kigali for the results. When they brought me to a back room in the pathology department, I was greeted by the Rwandan pathologist and another Human Resources for Health (HRH) member who IContinue reading “This is absurd… I probably have breast cancer?”